Why doesn’t everyone have a doula?
It’s a question we’re asked, often by very eager partners, after hearing that our job is to make them look awesome. So why doesn’t everyone have a doula? I could tell you a million reasons why you should hire a doula, but here are some reasons you may not.
1) You’ve never heard of a doula.
Well, you’re here so obviously that’s not the case with you, but I’d be willing to bet that most of your friends don’t know what a doula is. Tell them. Tell everyone! Doula support should be known. Everyone of childbearing age should know that it is possible to have unbiased, non-judgemental support during their pregnancy, labour, and postpartum period.
2) You have a midwife.
Midwifery care is great. Do midwives provide emotional and physical support during labour? Absolutely. Are they able to focus solely on that the whole time? Definitely not. They are responsible for your well being and that of your baby. They need to be constantly monitoring things and writing things down. They sometimes need to consult with the OB. They sometimes have to pee. They are busy. Doulas work WITH midwives (and nurses for that matter) to ensure that you are always fully supported.
3) You’re having a c-section.
Planned in advance or in case of emergency, about a third of babies are born by cesarean section. Guess what? You still need support. If it’s a planned delivery, your doula can help you understand the procedure and tell you about your options. There are probably things you’ve never considered.. like who is going to be with mom while dad is with baby across the room. That can be a really lonely and scary time. Your doula will be there.
4) Your OB told you that you don’t need a doula.
Don’t let anyone tell you what you do and do not need. If you want the support of an experienced doula, hire one.
5) Your friend had a doula and hated her.
I’m sorry to hear that. I truly am. Doulas are people just like you and me, and you can find one you like. I’m sure you can find one you love in fact! Check out her website, talk to her past clients, and connect in person before making a decision.
6) Doulas cost too much.
There is definitely a cost associated with having someone come to your house and tell you about all your options. It costs money for the doula to drop everything to come and be with you during your labour. She needs gas in her car, she needs to cover childcare, she needs to eat, she needs to keep that doula bag full of tools and tricks, she needs training and books. So yes, it costs money. It may be that you give up your expensive coffee habit or ask friends and family members to chip in. It may be that you work out a payment plan with your doula so the total cost is spread out over the 9 months. If continuous support during labour is something you want badly enough, you will find the money.
7) You really don’t want one.
I can’t argue with that! You know yourself and your partner. You have complete faith in your care team. Go get ’em, sister!
But if you DO want a doula with you, check out our services page. We have different packages as well as a la carte selections to suit your needs.